In life, we are always trying to "find ourselves." We seek to define who we are, what we stand for, what we want out of this abstract thing we call "life."
In sociology, we learn that there are multiple selves and we are conditioned to move fluidly from one self to another. Who we are as a daughter is different from who we are as a friend, who we are as a student, and who we are as a stranger.
That's a hard concept to grasp. At least for me anyway. We've all been brought up to look down on "posers," people who are faking their identity, pretending to be someone they're not. But if identities are ambiguous, if there is no "real you" or, more appropriately, no "fake you," then what constitutes as posing? If you keep at it long enough, won't you eventually become that person anyway?
I still get mad when friends "change" who they are. It's frustrating when they become someone I can't identify with anymore. But are they more themselves, posing, or did they just develop another "self"?
Is it me who's having the identity crisis?
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